The ‘Arena’ vs. The ‘Stands’: Noemi Kis Explains How to Handle Critics

In a recent LinkedIn post, Noemi Kis✨ offers a compelling perspective on dealing with criticism, particularly for those embarking on new ventures or creative pursuits. Kis✨ draws a sharp distinction between those actively participating in the ‘arena’ of creation and those observing from the ‘stands’ with unsolicited opinions.

Understanding the ‘Arena’ Mentality

Kis✨ posits that genuine success in any field is often accompanied by empathy for beginners. According to the post, established figures don’t typically tear down newcomers because they vividly remember their own initial struggles. This shared experience fosters a supportive environment rather than a critical one.

“They NEVER mock beginners because they remember being one.”

This sentiment is further elaborated by Kis✨’s observation of how seasoned individuals react to early-stage efforts. A founder who has achieved seven figures, for instance, doesn’t dismiss a first sale but rather recalls the significance of that milestone. Similarly, a creator might see a nascent post and offer encouragement, while an expert recognizes the ‘messy start’ as the inevitable beginning of any journey.

The Nature of Sideline Critics

Conversely, Kis✨ identifies a different type of commentator: those on the sidelines who offer abundant opinions without having experienced the challenges firsthand. These critics, as described by Kis✨, have never taken the risks involved in starting a business, posting content, making a sale, or appearing vulnerable.

“The people on the sidelines? The ones who’ve never: Started the business, Posted the content, Made the first sale, Risked looking stupid. They have all the opinions. And none of the scars.”

Kis✨ argues that these individuals project their own fears and inexperience onto others, mistaking their lack of action for wisdom. The post contrasts this with the mindset of those who are actively building and succeeding, suggesting they are too preoccupied with their own progress to engage in tearing others down.

Strategies for Navigating Criticism

To combat the noise from unhelpful critics, Kis✨ proposes a three-pronged approach:

1. Check the Source: Kis✨ advises evaluating the critic’s background. Have they achieved what you are attempting? Are they participants in the ‘arena’ or merely spectators? Do they possess tangible results, or just opinions?
2. Seek Feedback from Mentors: The post strongly recommends seeking guidance from individuals who have successfully navigated similar paths. This involves finding mentors and joining communities of active practitioners, while consciously ignoring advice from those who remain on the sidelines.
3. Let Action Silence Critics: Kis✨ advocates for prioritizing action over responding to criticism. This means publishing imperfect content, launching a less-than-perfect version of a product, and showing up even when feeling unprepared.

Ultimately, Kis✨ concludes that critics will always exist, projecting their fears onto those demonstrating courage. However, the crucial distinction lies in who is actively engaged in the process. As the post emphasizes:

“The truth is – critics will always be there. Talking. Judging. Projecting their fear onto your courage. But they’re not in the game. You are. And that’s the only thing that matters.”

Kis✨ encourages readers to shift their focus from those who offer criticism without experience to those who have demonstrated success through their actions, reinforcing the idea that growth and learning happen within the ‘arena’ of active participation, not in the passive observation from the stands.