Why Being Yourself Can Build More Lasting Relationships, According to Sahil Bloom

In a recent LinkedIn post, Sahil Bloom discusses how trying to win universal approval can make relationships harder to sustain. This article reports on Bloom’s post and examines his argument: people may find more lasting connections when they stop editing their personalities to please everyone.

“You weren’t meant to be liked by everyone.”

The cost of constant self-editing

Bloom argues that filtering one’s personality can turn social interactions into performances. As Sahil Bloom notes, “Every filter becomes a role you have to keep playing.” In his view, the effort to maintain that role can become exhausting, particularly when it shapes how someone behaves across relationships.

The post frames this as a mismatch between presentation and connection. If someone adjusts their personality to attract approval, Bloom suggests, they may end up in relationships that require them to keep up that adjustment. His point is not that relationships demand no effort, but that connection built around a carefully managed persona can carry an additional burden.

Acceptance as a way to find the right fit

Bloom’s proposed response is direct: “Stop filtering yourself to be liked.” He presents authenticity as a way to let relationships develop on more honest terms. According to Bloom, people who are a good fit will remain, while others may leave.

“Right ones will stick. Wrong ones will walk.”

That formulation makes the post’s central claim memorable, but it also simplifies a complicated social reality. Relationships can change for many reasons, and being authentic does not guarantee compatibility. Bloom’s point, as presented in the post, is narrower: acceptance from everyone is not a realistic standard, and chasing it can come at the cost of feeling at ease with oneself.

Reframing rejection

Bloom goes a step further by treating some departures as positive rather than as evidence of failure. “That’s a blessing,” he writes, referring to the possibility that people who are not a fit may walk away. In his view, that outcome can spare people the ongoing work of performing a version of themselves to preserve a connection.

The post closes with a message of self-acceptance rather than a detailed relationship framework. Its appeal lies in the contrast Bloom draws between being liked through constant filtering and being accepted as oneself. For readers who recognize that tension, his argument offers a simple test: consider whether a relationship allows room for an unedited personality.