In a recent LinkedIn post, Stacy Sherman explores the profound impact of perspective on how we measure our lives, particularly in the face of loss and during times of reflection. Drawing inspiration from the book “The Gap & The Gain” by Dan Sullivan and Dr. Benjamin Hardy, Sherman shares a deeply personal reflection on choosing gratitude and acknowledging achievements, even on difficult days.
The Core Concept: Identifying ‘The Gap’ vs. ‘The Gain’
Sherman introduces the central dichotomy presented in the book: ‘The Gap’ and ‘The Gain’. ‘The Gap,’ as she explains, is the tendency to focus on what is missing, the losses experienced, the time not spent, and the words left unsaid. This perspective, she notes, can be particularly poignant during significant life events.
The GAP is focusing on what’s missing: The loss. Time we didn’t get. Words we didn’t say.
Conversely, Sherman highlights ‘The Gain’ as the practice of focusing on what one can be grateful for. This involves appreciating the positive aspects of experiences, cherished memories, and the presence of loved ones. Sherman emphasizes that this shift in focus can fundamentally alter one’s experience of life.
The GAIN is focusing on what we can be grateful for: The time we shared. Memories we get to talk about. People still in our lives and the gift of reunions (my favorite!)
A Call to Action for Reflection
As the year draws to a close and a new one approaches, Sherman proposes a practical exercise for her audience. She suggests taking just 60 seconds to actively identify and document personal ‘Gains’. This involves reflecting on specific accomplishments and enriching connections.
Identifying Personal Gains
Sherman prompts readers to consider:
- One thing they started and finished.
- One decision that propelled them forward.
- One connection that made their life feel more enriched.
According to Sherman, this conscious effort to track gains, rather than dwelling on perceived deficits, can profoundly impact one’s outlook and daily life.
Living with Intention
The underlying message of Sherman’s post is a powerful reminder about the brevity of life and the importance of intentional living. She argues that focusing on what has been achieved and appreciated is a more fulfilling path than dwelling on what was lost or what could have been.
Life is short. Don’t spend it focused on what didn’t happen or what you’ve lost. Track the Gains instead. It changes how you live, even on hard days.
Sherman concludes with a poignant observation, urging readers not to wait for a significant loss to prompt this shift in perspective. Her insights, shared on LinkedIn, offer a valuable framework for personal reflection and a strategy for cultivating a more positive and grateful mindset throughout the year.
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This article is based on insights shared by Stacy Sherman on LinkedIn.
📅 Originally posted on December 24, 2025 | View original post on LinkedIn →