Suzanne Lucas on HR Ethics: Why Dating Your Boss is a Risky Move

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Suzanne Lucas

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Dynamic HR Trainer and Speaker with 15+ years designing and delivering engaging programs on compliance, leadership, and professional development. Plus, improv comedy. Honest, I’m funny.

In a recent LinkedIn post, Suzanne Lucas discusses the fallout from an HR executive’s decision to date her boss, arguing that such actions undermine the integrity of the HR profession.

Lucas addresses the case of Kristin Cabot, an HR executive who was reportedly discovered with her boss boyfriend at a Coldplay concert. While Lucas expresses empathy for the death threats Cabot received, she maintains that the core issue lies with the poor judgment demonstrated by dating a superior.

“I feel bad that she got death threats (I’ve gotten them too for writing about Megyn Kelly’s dress), I don’t feel sorry for her for getting busted for a very dumb choice: dating her boss.”

The Professional Implications of Personal Choices

Lucas emphasizes that professionals in Human Resources hold a unique position of trust and responsibility. Their actions, therefore, have a broader impact on the perception of the entire field.

Upholding HR Standards

According to Lucas, the actions of individuals like Cabot can unfairly tarnish the reputation of hardworking HR professionals who adhere to ethical standards. She argues that these personal decisions have professional consequences that extend beyond the individuals involved.

“HR cannot do things like this. And every time an HR professional does something ridiculous it reflects on all of us.”

Lucas further elaborates on the negative repercussions, stating that such incidents can lead to increased scrutiny and skepticism towards all HR practitioners, regardless of their individual conduct.

Protecting the Reputation of the HR Profession

The core of Lucas’s argument is that ethical breaches by HR professionals, particularly those involving conflicts of interest or poor judgment, do a disservice to the many dedicated individuals within the field. She believes that maintaining professional boundaries is paramount to preserving the credibility and effectiveness of HR departments.

“So, no, I don’t feel bad for her. I feel bad for the hardworking women of HR who aren’t cannoodling with our bosses who get treated negatively because of women like her who make bad choices.”

By highlighting the importance of sound judgment and ethical conduct, Suzanne Lucas calls for a higher standard among HR professionals, underscoring that their personal choices directly influence professional perceptions and the overall integrity of their role within organizations.

📝 About This Content

This article is based on insights shared by Suzanne Lucas on LinkedIn.

📅 Originally posted on December 19, 2025 | View original post on LinkedIn →